Do it anyway

We usually blame others when there is failure, when there is disappointment....when things go wrong, in general. Maybe everyone (including you) expected success, but instead there is failure / a disappointing outcome. Here is an interesting question: What if you knew there was a good chance of failure or a lot of people expected failure? Would you still work on that project or pursue that goal? Would the effort be enough - you TRIED to achieve success?

This beautiful song by Martina McBride reminds us that we need to do things anyway....

Anyway

You can spend your whole life building
Something from nothin'
One storm can come and blow it all away
Build it anyway

You can chase a dream
That seems so out of reach
And you know it might not never come your way
Dream it anyway

God is great
But sometimes life ain't good
And when I pray
It doesn't always turn out like I think it should
But I do it anyway
I do it anyway

...



You can pour your soul out singing
A song you believe in
That tomorrow they'll forget you ever sang
Sing it anyway
Yeah, sing it anyway
I sing
I dream
I love
Anyway

(https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6uLtyzRgmyI&list=PLmYXTlZN4bBLiYNV-KrhlU0dV3NS6jpHQ)

"[I]n close relationships, when you identify with the other person, expressing disappointment can be an effective negotiating strategy. It avoids the negative connotations of anger and protects the ongoing relationship, which could explain why it’s often used (to great effect) in parent-child bargaining. The research also serves as a warning: don’t expect disappointment to have any sway on negotiations with strangers or when your opponent is acting on behalf of others. In those situations, threats or hard bargaining tactics are your safest bet."
- Sebastian Bailey, Using Emotion To Win Negotiations
http://www.forbes.com/sites/sebastianbailey/2013/10/22/using-emotion-to-win-negotiations/

"Be calm and strong and patient. Meet failure and disappointment with courage. Rise superior to the trials of life, and never give in to hopelessness or despair. In danger, in adversity, cling to your principles and ideals. Aequanimitas!"
- Sir William Osler

"Ambition is a very dangerous thing because either you achieve it and your life ends prematurely, or you don't, in which case your life is a constant source of disappointment. You must never have ambition."
- Jeremy Clarkson

"By risking failure, disappointment, disillusion, but never ceasing in your search for love. As long as you keep looking, you will triumph in the end."
- Paulo Coelho

Remember: even if there are disappointments along the way, it is important to stay motivated.

https://www.flickr.com/#/photos/lessonsproject/15039191125/in/set-72157646464261390/

Bruce was devastated when he lost the job he hoped to get. His reaction:
http://youtu.be/-Bprg2_s9mg (clip from the movie 'Bruce Almighty')
He wanted the job, but it was not the right fit for him.

Clip from the movie 'Bruce Almighty':